One Way To Go • Natural Attractiveness.

Hey, did you ever go out of your way to convince a girl of your personal qualities and assets? Take a date for example: she looks at you from the other side of her coffee mug with mixture of friendliness and waning interest as you tell her all about your job, your solid character and your possessions. Wouldn’t it be nice if she tried to kiss up to you instead?

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• Full article by The Bright Side: read it here!
• Originally published on Art of Seduction.

Sounds like a catchy slogan for a new service, doesn’t it? “Body Language Flirting! Amp up your animal attraction!” See, body language is incredibly powerful and it’s by far the most neglected area of flirting and seduction. It mirrors your mood and emotions, and transfers them to the person you’re with. Allow me to show how you can present great body language by modifying your emotional state.

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• Full article by The Bright Side: read it here!
• Originally published on Art of Seduction.

When I was younger, one thing had me simply stupefied: why was it that some guys seemed to have an endless stream of women pouring into their lives? I looked at my social circle and thought: “Where the heck does this fella get them?” It took many years for me to understand one thing: the real question is not “where to meet women”. There are ways to meet women anywhere you please! Let me give you some examples.

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• Full article by The Bright Side: read it here!
• Originally published on Art of Seduction.

It’s funny: as I share what I learn about dating and seduction, I keep running into men who wonder how to break through the “invisible shield” some women put up. You know the situation: you approach a really cute girl, and she gives you an attitude. “Sooooooo?” she asks, turning up her nose. “Are you desperate?”. Come over here, I got something else to ask you: are you serious!? Don’t you have standards? I’ll tell you something: the best way to break through that attitude is not to invest any more energy into that woman.

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• Full article by The Bright Side: read it here!
• Originally published on Art of Seduction.

Shhh! I’ll tell you a secret. I’m good at people-watching. I was at a party yesterday, and I saw this guy chatting with a flirty girl: as I watched them, I could literally see a big red sign flashing in his head: “How can I compete against the other men in here to attract that flirty girl?” I’m sure this guy spends a lot of time wondering how to be attractive to women. Let me tell you: instead of chasing women, you should be working on getting them to chase you.

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• Full article by The Bright Side: read it here!
• Originally published on Art of Seduction.

I remember that one day when I was talking to an Italian friend of mine. She had recently moved to another country: “I am disappointed in the men here”, she sighed. “In Italy, the guys are so forward with us girls, we have to swat them off with tennis rackets. But here, it feels like nobody notices me.” On that day, I had a fundamental insight: women want to be noticed! So many men out there wonder how to understand women. Here’s how I do it: I talk to them, and I ask questions.

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• Full article by The Bright Side: read it here!
• Originally published on Art of Seduction.

Look up 20 personal ads and you’ll know what women want a man to be. Funny! Charismatic! Stable! Sensual! Passionate! Mature! Smart! Ring a bell? But when you become funny around women, they only like you as the dorky best friend! You try to be sensual, they get creeped out. You tell them all about your stable job, they turn their backs. What do women want, then?! Here’s the answer: they want a man who knows what he wants – and gets it. Does this contradict the attributes I mentioned above? No! And I’ll tell you why – after this.

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• Full article by The Bright Side: read it here!
• Originally published on Art of Seduction.

As you look into the eyes of the woman sitting with you, you wonder what it would feel like to touch her, and kiss her lips. Quickly, you decide that your impulse is inappropriate, and you choke it. Instead, you continue the mundane, but safe conversation you’re having with her. An hour later, you’re back home, alone, and you kick yourself for screwing up another date. Why is it so hard to be honest? Were the stakes too high? What did you have to lose? Was it anything you “possessed” when you came in?

Honesty: so much easier when you have beliefs.

I am convinced that with your belief system tightly in place, with a solid conviction, being honest will come quite naturally to you. Where is your belief system at? Let me give you a taste of mine. I believe in creating and pursuing my own truth, love and beauty. If something has validity in my frame of mind, if it speaks to my feelings, then it is my truth. Examine yourself, and find answers to these questions:

- what do I love?
- where am I going?

Note that I didn’t propose “what do I want?” as the first question, because to know what you want, you have to search your passions first. When you have a clear idea about what you love, you will find what you want: this goes for where you want to be at the end of the decade as much as the end of this week, or the day. Then, regardless what anyone else may say, “I love women and I am going to have several of them in my life” is just as valid as “I love this one woman and I want to have her solely” – as long as it’s your personal truth. Realizing your truth, and living it, will enable you to create beauty in your life.

Embrace and assert your truth.

“I’m wondering what it would feel like to kiss you.” This is going through your mind, right? It’s where your passion points you. Even as you are sitting in a café next to a lovely lady (not opposite her, I hope – it’s a date, be close enough to touch her!), you are on your pursuit of beauty. As you assert that frame, you’re less intruding her boundaries than inviting her inside yours. This is the journey you’re on, and she has the opportunity to come along. She is free to do with the invitation as she likes.

Yes. Yes, you may still end up alone in your flat. But will you beat yourself up for not asserting your reality? Did you follow your path? Are you still moving towards your notion of beauty? I sure think so. Well then, why is it so hard to be honest after all? I propose that you’re not solid enough in your conviction to follow the path you’re on. More pressingly, you may not have a clear picture of it in your mind to begin with. Figure it out, then assert it. “I’m not looking for a girlfriend.” – “Are you seeing other girls at the moment?” – “Yes. About 45, and some of them live in my basement.” I never said you couldn’t be playful about it. (tbs)

I’d like to talk to you about something that seems to be a major issue for many men: how to tell a girl you like her. Don’t you wish there was an easy way to do that? Most of all, a safe way? After all, you can’t just tell her flat-out, right? That’d be pretty awkward. And it’s not like you never tried: you’ve confessed to girls in the past how much you felt for them, and it made them run away faster than you could say “what the…?”.

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• Full article by The Bright Side: read it here!
• Originally published on Art of Seduction.

Have you ever tried to “talk” a woman into feeling love for you? I’ve been there many times, falling deeply for a girl and finally gathering up the courage to tell her, just to fall flat on my butt. I learned the hard way that rationale will never trigger emotion. Sure, a woman may decide to marry a rich man, but that doesn’t mean love is involved. On the other hand, she may fall desperately for the poorest sitar player because he’s highly emotionally intelligent.

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• Full article by The Bright Side: read it here!
• Originally published on Art of Seduction.

Okay, here’s a basic lesson about seduction for you guys out there: being men, you innately possess all the attractiveness you need to seduce women. He who wears no masks and is in full alignment with his masculinity shall get laid. Powerful words. Still, that’s not the whole story! As much as women will agree to the first part and hate to admit what comes now, learning how to behave plays a significant part in flirting. The “wrong” tenure, body language or composure can screw you big time before you get to screw anyone else. This is why with all the authenticity and sincerity you need, knowing about the right behavioural traits will help you in your journey to learn how to seduce women.

FURTHER READING.

• Full article by The Bright Side: read it here!
• Originally published on Art of Seduction.

When you’re trying to meet women, you’re going to have to surround yourself by them and put yourself in environments where you can talk to hundreds of women per day if needed. So let’s get right to it, this article is about how to meet girls, plain and simple. Here’s the meat.

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• Full article by The Bright Side (edited by Chris Calo): read it here!
• Originally published on Art of Seduction.